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January 28, 2017 4 Comments

Question: Do you feel hurt or offended pagpinagsasabihan ka ni hubby? From simple things to serious matters. how do you handle that? ako kasi hindi agad nakakamove on sa nafefeel ko and tampo talaga. Thanks! I like youuuu — Karla :)

A: I used to get really defensive about it because I’m used to ~ALWAYS BEING RIGHT~ hehehe. I like being right. Who doesn’t? But being a know-it-all is something I’ve actively tried to lessen in the past years.

Thankfully, being aware of this flaw has helped me tone it down. More and more, I’ve accepted that sometimes maybe perhaps probably baka sakali may mali ako. Teehee.

I think what will help the most is to remind yourself why you married this man. You respect him, you look up to him, you love him, you are loved by him. He wouldn’t put you down for no reason. Take it constructively.

If there’s something about the way he tells you off, simply talk to him but make sure you’re not on attack-mode. Jim and I have gone through a few episodes through the years. I like being perfect in his eyes so when he complains about something, even if it doesn’t directly insult me, I feel soooo insulted and hurt.

I used to overreact and make it about me and how I’ve “let him down.” When he learned this about me, he also adjusted his ways and actively tried to complain less. Even so, I’m not as overly-sensitive as I once was. It’s a work in progress and learning each other’s love language really helps! Good luck and I hope the tampo goes away. Hehe.

By the way, I’ve purged all past questions that were unanswered, sorry about that! The question box is now open again! You can send in any other questions and I’ll try to update this every day :)

♥,
Saab

January 29, 2017

Saab

4 Comments

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    Tsikiboom

    January 28, 2017

    Mad props for the new look! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ

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      Saab

      January 29, 2017

      <3<3

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    galn

    January 28, 2017

    Thanks for this! Your answer perfectly summed up of how I changed now that I ‘m with my foreigner bf who doesn’t really understands tampo and ang-babae-dapat-nilalambing culture. This is the reason why I love your blog!

    ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’— from Malaysia!

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      Saab

      January 29, 2017

      Hahahaha!! Pero dapat nilalambing ka pa rin ha!!<3

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