Q: Hi, Saab! How do you deal with people who “compete” with you? Ayaw patalo kahit wala naman contest? Parang they can’t seem to be happy and accepting when it comes to you.
A: You can only control yourself and how you react to the situation. Either talk to the person and tell them how you feel or ask yourself if it’s even worth it at all — if not, just try to distance yourself from that person. You do you!
Q: Hey Saab! Would you consider a post regarding birth control pills? I never really had a sister I could ask these q’s to and I look up to you a lot! :)
A: That’s a great idea! I can ask my OB for help :)
Q: hi saab! what do you think of older woman-younger guy relationships? like 8 yrs apart? Why isn’t it “normal” for society when the girl is older? HELP.
A: I don’t judge relationships based on age. Mas nakaka-raise ng eyebrows for me ang toxic relationships and that happens whether there’s an age gap or not. If you have a healthy relationship naman, I don’t think age difference should be a big deal. I think it’s not considered “normal” because society tends to favor men and their wellbeing. Women are pressured to stay young because men need our ovaries to breed. “Sayang” yung partner mo kung di ka niya mabubuntis. It really angers me because the usual scenario is older men impregnating younger women and when they become absentee fathers, it’s perfectly normal and fine. Society dictates that women have an expiration date and it just baffles people’s small minds why a younger man would be attracted to an older woman. If you’re in this situation, please lang girl, break the norm. Screw the patriarchy!
Q: Did you and Jim move in together before getting married? I forgot haha
A: I very slowly moved in when we got engaged haha.
Q: I absolutely love your BuJo merch! Please make one that’s lefty-friendly huhuhu (one without the coil)
A: Huhuhu okay will consider that!!
Q: Hi Saab. Been dating a guy for just a few months but we’ve been friends for 5 years or more. Is it weird (and fast) that I know he’s the one I want to marry already? Everyone say so :(
A: If you’ve been friends for 5 years, I don’t think it’s weird at all. I always believe that you should end up with someone who is your friend.
Q: Hi Saab! I want to help plan my kuya’s wedding but I don’t know where to start. What were the first few things that you did in preparation for your wedding? :)
A: One of the first things you need to do is secure a date and locations for both wedding ceremony and reception! Once you have a date, you’ll have a deadline and that’s going to make you start moving!:) Research on caterers, and ask the couple for photos of their dream wedding scenario to help you plan it! You’re such a nice sister! Good luck!
Q: Hi Saab. My dad passed away before Christmas and it’s the hardest, painful thing ever. How did you cope? How were you able to live life as normal as before? I don’t know where to start. :(
A: Hi, I’m so sorry to hear this :( I don’t think you’ll ever go back to normal as in pretending nothing happened. I always feel like my dad is with me and there are still moments when I catch myself tearing up when I miss him. What keeps me going is my family, especially my mom. She is still with me and I don’t want to waste time being sad. I just want to spend time with her and make her happy! God bless you and your family!
Q: Ate Saab, I tend to self-sabotage the good things in my life. Any advice on how to stop doing it? I’m pushing people and opportunities away inadvertently. :(
A: It’s good that you’re aware of this behavior. Maybe you should step back and ask yourself why you think you’re doing this? Do you think you’re not good enough? That you’re undeserving? Why? Is there someone in your life that makes you feel small and irrelevant? That could be a big factor as to why you can’t accept good things happening to you. You have to love yourself first and I hope you can start working on that ASAP ♥
Q: Are you planning to publish a book? or maybe considering? :)
A: It’s a faraway dream. I want to write it when I’m older and wiser!