Q: Naniniwala ka ba sa cool off? Para kasing nagiging routinary na lang yung relationship namin ng boyfriend ko ngayon. :( nabobore na ako. :( don’t know what to do! :(
A: Awww… Personally I don’t believe in “cooling off” — I think the better thing to do is talk about it and be honest. Tell him you want to do new things together and if he’s not willing to try at all, then maybe you should think twice about your relationship.
Of course if he’s very busy with work you’ll have to be more understanding rin. He’s not the only one who should be making an effort.
Jim and I have talked about alternating each week about who will come up with an idea for our weekly dates!:) If he’s really really really busy and there’s absolutely no way he can do fun stuff with you (and I hope it’s just temporary), that’s no reason to stop you from going to an art fair or a gig with your friends (preferably friends of the same gender just so your boyfriend doesn’t get threatened). Then you can tell him all about your adventures and how you can’t wait to do these things with him too.
I asked what my Twitter followers have to say about this topic just so you can read what others have to say about it, too!
Blog topic: Naniniwala ba kayo sa "cool-off?" Why or why not?
— SaabMagalonaBacarro (@saabmagalona) March 15, 2016
@saabmagalona Hindi, dahil ang pinakamabisang paraan pa rin sa magulong sitwasyon ay isang maayos at masinsinang usapan.
— CZERENE AGUILAR (@kczerene) March 15, 2016
@saabmagalona Hindi, kasi it's like giving each other the space eh. Tas pag may space may nagfi'fill-in na iba, mas lalaong gumulo.
— Lou (@louellacast1) March 15, 2016
@saabmagalona Not.It's a way of saying i want 2 try smthing w/ another person but i want u to stay on stand by mode in case it won't work.
— gist18 (@gist18) March 15, 2016
@saabmagalona nope; that's like breaking up halfway plus isn't that just delaying the impending breakup? ?
— SARAH Sarte (@jiiensam) March 15, 2016
@saabmagalona yes. it gives us time to reflect and have time to fix ourselves before we fix what we have or our problem. ?
— T i n e (@mkr_tine) March 15, 2016
— Girlie Kilario (@ghirlieee) March 15, 2016
@saabmagalona .. sa office. Time to reflect and refresh after the period. Pero kung ggmitin yun para makopaglandian sa iba, iba yun!
— Ceszy Lucas Rosella (@CeszyLucas) March 15, 2016
@saabmagalona y, but it depends on what you really want out of the relationship, imo. Time off is good to clear your head & figure stuff out
— presidents1D (@presidents) March 15, 2016
@saabmagalona No, because I believe in the old saying na, “Pag gusto, gusto. Pag ayaw, ayaw.” ?
— Jaicel Asegurado (@aseguradojaicel) March 15, 2016
@saabmagalona Sure, if you both need to grow individually, this is the best thing you can do. But if it's to see who/what's out there, no.
— Shayne (@shayneblogs) March 15, 2016
I hope this helps you figure out what you need to do!:)