I just finished unpacking from our trip to Singapore with my in-laws. Taking the time to stick to my new year’s resolution of writing for at least 30 minutes each day. Third consecutive day of updating! SCORE! Now I will warn you early on that because I’m under time pressure, I will try to keep my posts as raw as my thoughts. I think I’m like one of the least offensive people I know on the Interwebz. For a blogger, I barely even tweet or post on Instagram anymore — something I’m trying to change this year because the Internet’s been a huge part of who I am today, with almost half my life recorded thru blogging. I think I need to go back to keeping this space my online journal.
Since I am what some people would call an online personality (what is with that term? So some people on Twitter are not personalities?), I’m well aware of my posts being subject to scrutiny. It’s something I should be used to by now but I’ve always been proud of having quality readers and followers. For me at least, having a hater is so 2000 and late (note to self: so is that phrase, Saab).
Social media has made everybody a celebrity and I think it’s also made a lot of unnecessary policing by people who actively look for something offensive in every post. If you follow me on Instagram, you probably saw this ~*oh-so-controversial*~ post of mine:
Then these comments were posted:
Back story: I bought sneakers in Singapore. Nothing groundbreaking but not everything posted online has to be so, right? So on a long train ride with my in-laws (it was Jim’s little sister’s first time on it so she was so happy), I asked Jim to take photos of my shoes. He wasn’t taking it right because obviously he had better things to do than try and make my calves look nice. So I took the photo myself. Imagine me hunched over in my seat, making sure my skirt wasn’t hiking up, trying to get my phone closest to the ground without actually letting it touch. It was a struggle just like my caption said. But I was happy I got the shot! Or so I thought. As I reviewed the photo later for posting, I saw the feet in the background! Obviously it’s not the best background and it actually was the first thing I saw when I was about to use VSCO filters on it.
Okay, ang haba ng story ko pero basically what I’m trying to say is: it was such a silly thing and I captioned it as it was. The stranger’s feet stole the show and became the star of the photo in my eyes at least. Forgive me for thinking it’s funny that some stranger’s half-naked feet photobombed my stupid shoefie, right? Why am I all of a sudden being accused of getting angry at this “poor” person?! Bakit bigla siyang nabasbasan as poor (pobre is Spanish for poor)? Why is my choice of using the word “sadly” being criticized as the “turning point” of my caption? I seriously don’t see the logic in it. How can anybody take a shoe selfie that seriously, anyway?
When I saw the comments last night, Jim asked me if I thought I should delete my post instead. I said no. Why should I stop having a sense of humor just because some people don’t get it? Why should I delete an honest to goodness harmless post just because some people found it offensive? If I posted a picture of Maxx photobombing me and I said the exact same caption, would it be offensive?? Why is it offensive? Because the stranger’s feet are not wearing Nikes too? SO WHAT? Even if she were wearing Nikes but had half her feet out, it would still have made a funny photobomb.
I found myself getting slowly incensed as I explained to Jim why I wasn’t going to delete the post. I remember getting a little overly-dramatic: “I’m tired of having to censor myself!!” YUCK OA. Pero diba? Where’s the fun in that? I guess an online personality wouldn’t be one without a personality. I think I got very upset because the one thing I’m not is a snob. I calmed down when a lot of people started commenting and explained to me how that guy probably doesn’t know me at all. And for those that backed him up, you probably don’t know me that well either. If this post turned you off, do us both a favor and just unfollow me because there’s a lot more EVIL SNOOTY EW-KAPAL-NG-MUKHA-NG-POBRENG-YAN-PARA-I-PHOTOBOMB-AKO-SANA-NAGLAKAD-NALANG-SIYA-TANGINA-NIYA posts where that came from! For the rest of you, thanks for having a sense of humor and not trying to find a flaw in everything and everyone.