Cooling Off: Yes or No?

Q: Naniniwala ka ba sa cool off? Para kasing nagiging routinary na lang yung relationship namin ng boyfriend ko ngayon. :( nabobore na ako. :( don’t know what to do! :(

Ross & Rachel talking about taking a break
Ross & Rachel talking about taking a break

A: Awww… Personally I don’t believe in “cooling off” — I think the better thing to do is talk about it and be honest. Tell him you want to do new things together and if he’s not willing to try at all, then maybe you should think twice about your relationship.

Of course if he’s very busy with work you’ll have to be more understanding rin. He’s not the only one who should be making an effort.

Jim and I have talked about alternating each week about who will come up with an idea for our weekly dates!:) If he’s really really really busy and there’s absolutely no way he can do fun stuff with you (and I hope it’s just temporary), that’s no reason to stop you from going to an art fair or a gig with your friends (preferably friends of the same gender just so your boyfriend doesn’t get threatened). Then you can tell him all about your adventures and how you can’t wait to do these things with him too.

I asked what my Twitter followers have to say about this topic just so you can read what others have to say about it, too!

I hope this helps you figure out what you need to do!:)


Ask Saab 45

Route 196, 2015 | Photo by Bel Certeza
Route 196, 2015 | Photo by Bel Certeza

Q: What do you think of B.P. Valenzuela? :)
A: I think she’s a very talented young girl.

Q: Do you like UDD?
A: I’m a fan of their music

Q: Hi Saab! Do you watch American Horror Story? Violet’s appeal is so like yours hahahaha I love you!!!!!
A: No but everyone says I should watch American Horror Story! Coven ba yan?

Q: Hello Saab! Do you usually blow dry your hair everyday? you are sooooo hooooot!
A: No, I wish I knew how to blow dry my hair.. Thank you very much!

Q: Did you try to smoke cannabis? if you dont mind hehe loveyou and your coolness!!!!
A: I tried it before and I puked very violently hahaha it really doesn’t suit me.

Q: HOLLA! at what age nasabe mo sa self mo na “WOW, I need to more responsible and be matured already.”
A: Siguro mga 9. Charot. It wasn’t the age, it was when my father passed away and I felt like I needed to be a rock for my mom.

Q: (CAREER-WISE) Have you ever applied to any non-showbiz jobs? :D
A: No.

Q: this is a bizarre question..I know Philippines is not like Singapore or United States…What made you think to live in the Philippines for almost 26 years of your life? :)
A: I was born here and life has been good to me here. And it’s more affordable here!

Q: Hi! Saab! I feel like you are more of an Ambivert person like me. What are the downsides of being an ambivert?
A: Full disclosure, I had to Google that. Okay, so an ambivert has the qualities of both introverts and extroverts. I’m definitely an ambivert and I feel like there’s not really much of a downside to it because you get the best of both worlds. The important thing is to surround yourself with people you’re excited to talk to. I used to be more of an introvert but since my profession calls for it, I’ve learned to adjust and become an ambivert. I used to think I would die if I arrived to a party alone, now I’m a little better. I just smile at everyone and that makes me more comfortable and approachable so people start talking to me. I need to work on my small talk though. I absolutely hate small talk so I’m horrible at it hahaha. I can’t go past “how are you?” and “good.” LOL.

Q: if you had the chance to make a book, what would be the title of your book? (well, khit anong title ng book mo, bbli ako! :p
A: I was gonna write a book on my past relationships and call it “The Ex Files” but I just Googled it and that title is not original at all. Hahahaha.

Q: do you drive ba, saab?
A: Yes, I do!

Q: Hello there Saab! I know you’ve read tons of books already. I have a question for ya! :P what are your tips on how I can visualize the story of a certain book? :( how do you make it a point to apprehend all the information of it?
A: I really just make a movie in my mind. Good books usually describe locations and characters really well. Sometimes I even think of existing actors playing each role but most of the time they’re total unknown personalities in my head. If it’s not science fiction, I think of existing locations I’ve seen in movies or in real life. Like when the author describes a public school, you can think of the hallways of your favorite teen rom com. When you visualize things, it’s really much easier to understand what you’re reading.

Q: Hi Saab!! I’m one of your avid readers, like I always check you site every single day, sa bahay, sa work, sa gabi bago matulog! HAHAHA, intense! But anyway, i just wanna ask, if you are experiencing this situation what will you do? You met a guy, common friend niyo siya ng sister mo, then you both got a long well. After few weeks of talking over social medias, you decided to meet and hang out. Then suddenly, after a while, he just disappeared. Literal na nawala walang pasabi, You’re left clueless, hindi mo alam kung ano nangyari and all. :( I kept reminding myself that he is not worth it pero honestly hindi naman siya nawala sa isip ko until now…. after 4 months? Hay. PS – why do you look so fresh always!!! hehehe,
A: Hello! Thanks so much for supporting my blog! Here’s my answer: if you aren’t close enough to know where he lives or his family members, maybe it’s time to move on. Otherwise, you should really check up on him through his family in case he’s in some sort of danger? I know it’s easier said than done but in these situations, it’s usually a case of The Missing Douchebag. I don’t mean to hurt your feelings but he probably got bored or met somebody new and he obviously doesn’t value your friendship for him to tell you about it. He probably thinks it’s easier that way because guys don’t really enjoy drama. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, my dear! Good luck! P.S. THANK YOU SO MUCH hehehe

Q: god forbid, but what if jim cheats on you? what will you do?
A: Kick him to the curb.

Q: Bakit “Joey” name ni Joey? :P
A: Named after my favorite character Josephine March from Louisa May Alcott’s Little Women. She’s a rebel tomboy who loves writing.

Q: What’s your comfort food?
A: Pizza and sushi — the greatest things in life

Q: Best compliment you have received?
A: When my real life friends randomly quote something I wrote on my blog. It’s really the best feeling.

Q: May mga future baby names na bang sumasagi sa utak mo? Hihi. :)
A: Isamiah or Jerebella. Lel

Q: Worst away nyo ni Jim? :)
A: Super love how that question ends with a smiley face haha. Hmmmm I think it was that one time we broke up for 2 days. It was the worst, we just ignored each other. But Jim tells me that was the catalyst for our engagement. He felt so horrible that he wasn’t able to talk to his best friend so he knew he wanted to keep me forever. Not that I’m his property or anything but gets? Hahaha. To make it clear, I felt equally as horrible and I really felt like a part of me died a little. YUCK OA BA?? Pero ganon talaga yung feeling.

Q: Who’s your girl crush na local celebrity? :)
A: Kelly Misa hehehe

Q: Nagbabasa ka ba ng fashionpulis?
A: No, ew. Have you read the comments there? Mukha bang part ako ng demographic ng FP? Haha. Mga bored na walang purpose sa buhay ang nagsasayang ng oras doon noh.

Q: Sa mga future children nyo, sino sa tingin mo may tendency mang-spoil, you or daddy Jim? :D
A: Jim.

Q: Have you watched Breaking Bad?
A: Yaaas

Q: Who do you want as the next president of the Philippines?
A: Dick Gordon but he’s not in the running

Q: What turns you off immediately?
A: People who don’t smile

Q: Have you ever shopped in ukay ukay?
A: Yeah

Q: Hi! Kay janet ka ba bumili ng iphone 6? Plus bakit sa greenhills ka nabili? Thanks!!
A: Yung luma kong iPhone 6, gift ni Maxx sa akin! I just bought a 6S+ from iStudio in Shangri-la! I’m so excited, I’m restoring it with my contacts and other stuff now :)

Q: Do you pay for your kiehls at mac products? Thank!!
A: Some of them, yes! Some are gifts from the brands :)

Q: what’s your favorite red, pink, nude, orange/coral, dark, brown shades and brands of lipsticks? :) thank you :)
A: Right now I like diff shades of brown for my lips! MAC and Colour Pop are my faves at the moment.

Q: How much is the Creamy Eye Treatment from Kiehls? Gosh I need it I have the biggest designer bags under my eyes!! :(
A: Naku I’m not sure!

Q: hi saab i love you oh please love me back haha so where and when do you usually hangout? favorite spot or place?
A: Saguijo in Makati!:)

A: Rom com, not a movie though, watch Netflix’s new original series called LOVE. UGH SOBRANG GANDA

Q: are u an introvert or an extrovert?
A: Apparently I am what’s called an ambivert

Q: whats ur favorite fast food chain?
A: Burger King

Q: How effective is Kiehl’s Midnight Recovery Concentrate to you?
A: Mukha akong Galadriel pag gising ko. Lel

Q: How do you tell someone to back off snooping on your stuff without offending them.
A: “Ummmm, hello, PWEDE WAG???????” Char! Just be honest and calm. “Hi, I hope you understand that I really value my personal space and it would mean so much if you could respect my privacy.” Optional ending: “, you motherf***ing snoop!!!!”

Q: Hey Saab you please check this out! What do you think? =)
A: I can’t find the track!

Q: Condition once in a while lang? not every day? omg every day pa naman ako
A: Actually, hindi ko alam! I think everyday is better for the hair, but I like my hair messy and a little buhaghag hehe.

Q: What are your blog-to-do list?
A: I try to plan what I’m going to write in advance so I don’t have a blank page when I start writing. I have topics ready. Then I look for at least one image that’s best suitable for the post, and make sure to end encouraging my readers to engage in a conversation. I also make sure I leave a link in the end to help my reader learn more information about my topic.

Q: saab, do you play COC?? if yes anong level kana?? ?
A: Nope!

Q: How do you maintain your pinkish or not dark lips? I always wear lippie because when, I don’t I look sick. Saka because I started wearing one about 4 years ago, and now my lips are dark :(
A: Nakaka-dark ba talaga ng lips ang lipstick?:( Maybe you need a better makeup remover! I use L’Oreal’s Gentle Eye and Lip Makeup Remover. And then use your toothbrush to GENTLY exfoliate your lips once in a while!

Q: HI SAAB!! I can’t wait for you to write your book!! (Sabi mo kasi before my book deal ka na hehe). Good luck!! P.S. Can I order a Cheats shirt with a message from you and the whole band? Huhu please!! I really love your album!!
A: Thanks!! Yes, you can get a shirt! Message us on our Facebook page to order!

Q: Do you ever consider having little Joey babies or gusto mo baby lang si Joey forever?
A: No Joey babies because I had her spayed a long time ago. Better for her health and there are way too many homeless pups in this world.

Q: SAAB! OMAYGAD Nakita ko finofollow mo si leloy claudio on twitter jasdhksdf sobrang crush ko siya as in!!! Kamukha siya ni Jim!!! So feeling ko Saab ako at magkakaroon kami ng Jim-Saab love story. Chos! Ang laki ng age gap namin hahaha! Pero kasi ultimate crush talaga ano ba :( But really how do you know him? And what’s he really like? :)
A: Hahaha he interviewed me before for Rogue magazine, that’s the most interaction we’ve had. Sorry I can’t give you more info on your crush :(

Q: Hi Saab, your hubby looks charming and nice :) my nagsabi naba sayo / sa kanya na hawig nya si Mark Anthony Fernandez? hihi
A: Omg wala pa pero super crush ko si Mark Anthony Fernandez!! Oo nga noh!!

Q: Its hard for me to get along with my officemates. Im planning to job hop but Im loaded with paperworks. I need a wake up punch! Any advice?
A: I need more info to give you advice but off the bat, I’d say: start sleeping early, waking up early, and smiling more. Be more patient with your officemates and just finish the paperwork. If you really feel depressed in your work environment, just quit!

Q: bb cream, naturactor or Mary Kay liquid foundation?
A: I’ve never used Mary Kay foundation so….. I’ll go for bb cream cos it’s not as thick as foundation!

Q: Hi saab. What can you say about Jadine? Do you like them? :D
A: Okay naman!

Q: Does Jim read you blog? Aware ba sya na marami kang readers na may crush sa kanya? Isa na ko dun! Haha! You are one lucky girl! <3
A: Yes!:) I’m very very lucky!!

Q: How are you right now?
A: Keribelz

Kim Kardashian VS The World

I’m sure you’ve all seen the whole naked-selfie saga of Kim Kardashian. Here’s a recap:

And then the millennials start asking me, “who is Piers Morgan?” (he’s a well-known opinionated British journalist btw)

And then the millennials make me feel even older by asking me, “Beth Midler?” And I’m like, “GO WATCH THE FIRST WIVES’ CLUB FOR GOD’S SAKE!!!”

And then somebody the millennials know actually says something


To: Piers Morgan
Love: KimK

To: Bette Midler
Love: KimK

(I’m just surprised she didn’t say “passed” your bedtime which is a common mistake with Americans)

To: Whatshername
Love: KimK


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Because IMPLYING you’re naked is better than making it too obvious?


And then Bette Midler tries to save face

When Bette Midler uses a millennial term like shade… <-- is this age-shaming?

And then may mga naki-epal pa. Haha. Pink:

Kanye’s ex-girlfriend Amber Rose defended Kim

Damn Pink we were all born naked society sexualizes our breast and bodies. If a grown mother of 2 is comfortable with her body and wants to show it off that's none of ur business or anyone else's. Now, if u wanna talk to kids and be a mentor to young teens, tell them to go to school and to not use their bodies to get ahead?! I'm all for it! But please as a grown woman let another grown woman live as she wishes. That's our problem! We're so quick to down each other instead of uplifting! Pink, We've seen u damn near naked swinging from a rope( Beautifully) but what's the difference between a rope, a pole and a pic on Instagram? Classism. Because u sing while ur half naked does that make it "Classy" or is it because u have a "talent"? I'm not dissing at all Pink just curious after u said "You'll never have to make a silly excuse for yourself".

A photo posted by Amber Rose (@amberrose) on

Here’s a useless brain fart: Kim Kardashian is famous for being famous. Get over it. I’ve seen tinier bikinis than those black censor bars. If you think she’s an attention whore, why do you validate her by commenting on what she does? Ultimate MEMA (mema = may masabi lang).

She made a sex tape, she married Kanye, her family has a reality show, there’s nothing you can do about it. These are her choices. People are not famous because they’re well-liked. People are famous because they’ve got good publicists. We follow these people because they’re our connection to society. It’s like watching a TV show so you can talk about it with your friends in school the next day. I don’t love Kim Kardashian and her values, but I have to admit she’s pretty entertaining. You know Kim is that basic bitch who likes to post selfies and likes Lana Del Rey because she thinks flower crowns = indie and cool. So many girls relate to Kim. She’s like an annoying friend you can’t really hate because she’s not hurting anybody.

“But she’s hurting our society! Young girls look up to her!” WHY? It’s not the first time a “bad person” has been in the spotlight. Young girls should be brought up by their parents, not by celebrities. If you’re bringing up your children right, they’d be looking up to Natalie Portman instead and maybe just watching Keeping Up With The Kardashians for fun. What’s worrisome is that more people are angrier at Kim Kardashian and Justin Bieber than they are at Donald Trump (newsflash: I’ve got no facts to back this up).

Kim’s a person who doesn’t really have an opinion on anything except maybe how hot she thinks she is. So how can you take anything she says or posts seriously?

Also, were you not entertained by this MEMA blog post? I hope you still take me seriously after this. Lelz


Live Blogging: Photo Dump!

If you’re late to the live photo dumping party I started earlier this evening, you may want to check out my previous entry. This is a continuation of that last entry but using a different live blogging plugin for WordPress called *drum roll please* LIVE BLOGGING.

ALRIGHT! Let’s do this!!



Ay sorry. Wait. Haha.


Nyko’s Despedida (February 2014)

Waiting for Nyko to arrive
Waiting for Nyko to arrive
Omg so reminiscent of my The Incugirl days... (of course I had to make it about me.....)
Omg so reminiscent of my The Incugirl days… (of course I had to make it about me…..)
Hiding beside the bathroom before we yelled SURPRISE!!!
Hiding beside the bathroom before we yelled SURPRISE!!!
Trying not to cry as we send off our best friend
Trying not to cry as we send off our best friend
Love from the beshies
Love from the beshies


Okay, that was a bust. Live Blogging can’t seem to handle multiple page views and my blog crashed last night. Sorry about that. Guess that ends the Live Photo Dumping sesh. Haha. Next time! Will make sure to use 24LiveBlog instead.


Live Photo Dumping

So I made a really spontaneous purchase today and bought a new laptop. I saw Megan‘s gold MacBook a few weeks back and felt how light it was to carry around. I was never sold on the new line of MacBooks because of the whole design > ports thing. But hey, I’ve got a desktop at home for heavy editing and gaming. I thought I needed a change in portable blogging tools (a.k.a. sakit na ng likod ko sa MacBook Pro huhu).

I called Jim when I was in iStudio to ask what he thought. He is Best Supporting Husband because he encouraged me to buy one. Sabi niya, “it’s like me getting a new guitar.” He made me promise myself that I would stay consistent in my updates so I can justify the expense. AND I WILL!! WOOHOO!

So while I’m cleaning my current laptop and transferring files, I’m gonna do a live-blog using the plug-in 24LiveBlog. Note that I have never done live-blogging before and I know this is an insanely stupid thing to live-blog (hahaha) but I thought it would be good practice for when I want to update you on future events! Alright, I hope this goes well and you enjoy the photos!


Helpful Tips For A Good Night’s Sleep: The 10-3-2-1-0 Formula


Do you have a hard time getting enough rest at night? I’m constantly on the lookout for tips on productivity and I know for a fact that I work better when I get at least 8 hours of sleep. While our going-to-bed rituals all differ, here’s a suggested formula that I got from

If you want a simple approach to sleeping better and taking control of your mornings, Fitness coach Craig Ballantyne at the Early To Rise blog recommends you follow the “10-3-2-1-0″ formula:

– 10 hours before bed: No more caffeine
– 3 hours before bed: No more food or alcohol
– 2 hours before bed: No more work
– 1 hour before bed: No more screen time
– 0: The number of times you hit the snooze button in the morning

Easier said than done, I know. But it makes a lot of sense and it’s easy to remember! I really want to be able to sleep earlier on nights when my band Cheats doesn’t have gigs. I want to be in bed by 10pm at the latest. A good night’s sleep means a productive day for me! Just wanted to share this with you guys in case you’re also looking to sleeping better.


Ask Saab 44

Put your hands up
Put your hands up

Q: why do you shop sa greenhills kapag gadgets? sobrang makakamura ba dun? you said you buy gadgets from janet, do you have her contact details? Thanks!
A: Actually, hindi ko alam kung nakakamura ako dun. Hahaha. Nakasanayan lang. My dad loved going to Greenhills to buy gadgets. Janet’s number: 09178068988

Q: would you ever consider to be working in an IT industry?
A: If that involves creating websites and coding, I think I would.

Q: saab im planning to buy an adidas superstar. they said that the sizing of adidas is different. is it true? btw i’ll buy online kasi hihi thanks
A: I’m normally a 7.5 women’s. My Superstars are UK 5. Hope that helps!

Q: I love you so much Saab. You’re my inspiration in life. Swear to God. My friends laughed at me nga ksi crush ko din si Elmo but mas crush lng kita hahahaha :)) When are you planning to come here in Cebu?
A: Hahaha awww! Well, no plans right now. Maybe if Cheats gets a gig there?:)

Q: Who is your fashion icon?
A: Myself.. TARAYYYY gusto mo yun?? Hmm.. IDK. Probably Daria?

Q: Ano ang common interest nyo ni Elmo?
A: Drake? Haha and video games.

Q: HI Saab! I have been scouting all the Adidas shops in the metro and I haven’t found a Superstar in my size. I know you got yours in Japan (haha! major #fangirl here) but I would like to know if you know where can I get one? Thanks! And I would like to ask for a photo op with yew! :*
A: Aww man, I really wouldn’t know because I got mine in Japan nga :( Sorry!! Yes, of course, I’m free for photo ops hehe.

Q: Do you remember familiar faces in your gigs? Just wondering if you’d remember a fan like me. Hope to see Cheats play again soon! :)
A: Yes, if they go to gigs regularly!! Hope you come to more gigs!!

Q: Do you have an idea how much a lasik procedure would cost?
A: Here’s what Asian Eye Institute says:

In general, the cost of LASIK depends on two things: the type of treatment (conventional LASIK or all-laser bladeless LASIK) and the doctor who will be doing the surgery. But we do offer installment plans with most banks. We wouldn’t want you to have to field questions about cost so you can tell them to email us directly at or visit our Facebook page for inquiries.

What we’d encourage though is for interested patients to undergo lasik screening because as you know, not everyone can do LASIK. That costs P3,200 and involves a series of tests to determine whether he or she is qualified to do LASIK. During the consultation, the doctor will discuss the results and recommend the type of LASIK that is appropriate for them.

Right now, we have some partnerships running that can help them get the screening done and surgery done:

– Asian Eye – PNB OFW Family Eye Care Program (For OFWs and their family members)
– 15% discount on eye care services including Lasik screening and Lasik Surgery

– Pag-IBIG Loyalty Cardholders (anyone can get this!)
– – 15% discount on LASIK screening and conventional LASIK surgery

Q: hi saab ? what do you do to your pubic hair before you wear bikini?? do you shave or wax?? just curious? I always read your blog, its very inspiring ? and its my first time to ask, Love lots?
A: Hello there! I wax down there :) Thanks for taking the time to ask a question!

Q: Hi Saab! Been reading your blog for years now. Are you into the adult coloring book craze too?
A: Hello!! No, not really but I understand the craze :)

Q: Are you a fan of Hello Kitty like Maxx?
A: No. Haha!

Q: Can you do an updated beauty haul of beauty favourites blog?
A: Totes!

Q: Sino sa mga ex ni Maxx ang nagiging close mo?
A: Only Chino because we were friends even before they got together.

Q: How old is Elmo? Is he single?
A: He’s 21 and no, he’s got a girlfriend.

Q: hi Saab ang tagal mo sumagot wala na kami ng bf ko *abusive relationship* HAHAHAHA
A: Well mabuti nalang hindi mo kinailangan hintayin ang sagot ko. Siguro kasi alam mo na rin naman ang isasagot ko. At siguro dahil ALAM MO NAMAN RIN NA DAPAT YUN!!! Woohoo congrats!!

Q: Is there a time na you feel so lonely and you don’t know why? what did you do to get out from that feeling? Hmmm :(
A: Yes. Watch FRIENDS.

Q: In a modern world where being connected is so easy like log onto fb or any social media and you can talk to people yet I feel disconnected. I blamed tech for my disappointment. How you feel about it?
A: I felt the same way. That’s why I’ve become inconsistent in updating my social media accounts. I’ve been online for so long and I’m finally enjoying real life more haha so my online persona has suffered. But I know it’s part of the job, of being an online personality, so I have to keep updating. It’s just about finding a balance. I hope you find yours.

Q: Hi Saab! Nag debut party ka ba nung 18th birthday mo? :) if yes, anong theme? may pics kaba? thank you! muah :*
A: Nope, it’s not a tradition in our family!

Q: Hi, Saab! Gusto ko sana magpagupit, yung sa Matrix challenge. Kaso natatakot ako baka di bumagay sa akin yun kasi 20 na ako pero never pa ako nagpashort hair. What should I do? Gusto ko talaga.
A: Aww tapos na yung Matrix challenge! Pero kung gusto mo talaga, gawin mo na!!:) Short is the way to go. Perfect pa for summer ;)

Q: Hello, saab! When was the last time you watched a uaap game?
A: Oh my.. I can’t remember!! I think I was still in college so about 5 years ago?

Q: How was your college life like? Any ADMU tips? hehe
A: It’s all a blur. Haha! ADMU tips? Read all your required readings and prepare for each class. Daming cute sa Ateneo so you’ll get distracted easily. Don’t fall for it! A happy crush is good to have so you look forward to going to class hehe but aim to make him/her your motivation instead of a distraction. Study hard to impress them! Damn, I wish I knew all this back then. Haha! Sobrang di ako focused when I was in college. Don’t waste it!

Q: What brand of luggage do you use on your trip abroad?
A: Rimowa!

Q: Hi, Saab! How do you take care of stray eyebrows? Is getting brow threading every 6 weeks too much already? xoxo
A: Hmmm well I haven’t gotten my eyebrows threaded in about 4 months? Haha. I think I need to get this under control soon. :)) But I just cut the upper part when I see na medyo kagulo na (I swear my eyebrows have a life of their own) and tweeze a few stray ones under. I make sure never to over-pluck!

Q: Hi Saab! I admire you na despite being a celebrity you talk like a regular girl based on what I read on your posts, walang arte :) Anayway, here’s my question, how do you and Jim makeup whenever there’s a “tampuhan”?
A: Thank you :) After a few minutes of silence after arguing (usually happens when we’re both hungry hehe), one of us just reaches out for the other’s hand. And we just start laughing and we both say sorry for being so silly. And then we end up explaining why we feel a certain way about something. Just last night I read in a book (The One Year Love Language Minute Devotional by Gary Chapman, a gift from my mother-in-law) that emotions are just an indicator. Like when your gas tank lights up when you’re driving, instead of panicking you have to find a solution or you’ll end up nowhere. Your emotions are an indicator that something is off. Find a way to solve what’s wrong instead of letting your emotions take the lead.

Q: what are signs that one has moved on from a failed relationship? does moving on mean no longer loving that person?
A: Not at all, I think you can move on but still love your ex. I will always love some of my exes because they became a part of me. I have no ill feeling towards them and I think that’s a good sign of moving on. When I don’t want them to feel bad about not being with me anymore but I don’t want to get back with them either, that’s when I know I’ve moved on.

Q: Hi Saab, I am a mother of a 4 year old and I am turning 26. I don’t want to dress like a mom, but I want to graduate from shirts and sneakers. Any advise on how to rebuild a wardrobe? PS: mej budget conscious. :)
A: Buy neutral colored pieces! Comfortable skirts and tops that you can pair would be a start! Grays, blacks, whites, navy blues, moss green, etc. Keep white/black sneakers in your wardrobe. I think I’d be a sneaker kind of mom. Right now I own a really comfy pair of Muji slip-ons that I got in Singapore for just around Php1,500. My thinking: some people will see me as looking like a mom, I think I look Japanese chic. It’s all about attitude ;)

Q: Nagju-juts ka ba? hihi
A: A lot of my friends are surprised that I don’t smoke weed. You’d think I would but I’m just not into it.

Q: what schools do clara arkin and go to? is frank from ateneo also?
A: Montessori, Antipolo. Frank went to Ateneo grade school, Montessori high school and UP Diliman college.

Q: Where did you buy the green jacket you were wearing in your Ask Saab 36? Thank you :)
A: My fave jacket from H&M

Q: Any advice for a 23yr.old NBSB-career woman that people find intimidating. I have to admit that I’m kinda loud or should I say “babaeng bakla”. I think that’s the reason why nobody likes me back.
A: Awww.. That’s sad! Although awareness of the fact that you might seem intimidating is a start! Maybe you can tone down the volume of your voice when you speak? And not everything that comes to mind HAS to be said! Try not to be negative all the time because that tends to turn people off.

Q: Right or left handed?
A: Right

Q: Paano kayo naging “sworn enemies” ni Chelo? Hihihi please make kwento. :)
A: Haha ang luma. There was a guy. I didn’t know they weren’t completely over, di kasi kami magkakilala noon but the guy started messaging me. It was really the guy’s fault. LELZ.

Q: Did Jim ever told you that you stress him
A: Probably. I don’t remember but most likely. Hahaha.

Q: When did you and Jim become an official couple? :)
A: Hmm I really don’t know if we have an official date but we got serious around July of 2012, I think.

Q: Do you still hangout with clara and arkin now that they went back to school??? P.S I love you so much Saab. ?
A: Yes, we try to see the whole family every Sunday :) <3 Q: Where can we buy the rainbow cake you had on your party? Thanks
A: Epicurious in Shangrila East Wing

Q: Are you planning to maintain your short hair? Or you are going to let it grow long again? :)
A: Hmmm I had no plans, really, but as of the moment I think I’ll grow it again :)

Q: Do you watch the TV show Castle? What do you think of it?
A: No :(

Q: Who’s your favorite Friends character? Why?
A: Chandler. Because his sarcasm is the best.

Q: First book you’ve read?
A: Probably something by Richard Scarry.

Q: You should try to watch MISFITS (UK tv series) it has 5 seasons with 6 to 8 episodes each) the first two seasons were the best but the rest were okay din! Ok love you poh
A: Noted! Thanks!

Q: Do you use lip pencil with your MAC Chili? If yes, what kind? Also, do you use lip brush to apply lipstick? Or can you please describe your lipstick routine? Thanks! :)
A: No I don’t use a lip pencil. I want to use a lip brush although I haven’t gotten around to buying one! I really just apply it directly. I try to do the X thing first in the middle of my upper lip and then I just color “within the lines” of my lips hehehe.

Q: Not a question! Just want to share you something: I’m in a middle of a relationship crisis and then I heard your song ‘New Day’ (It’s from your old blog, if you can still remember hehe) from my iPod and it felt like an eye-opener. Oo nga naman bakit ako mag papaka stress sa lalaking sobrang labo when in fact, every day is another awesome chance to live my life!! I super love you 10x more because of that!
A: Omg I don’t even remember that song!!!! Awwwww I’m so happy I helped :):) Wish I had a link to that song.

Q: Hi Saab! I have a crush on a guy who used to be my classmate in college and now we’re workmates, too. Whenever I see him around, I’m too shy to say hi since we’re not that close, and he also looks a bit suplado. :( But I notice that when we’re around common friends, he acts friendlier. Could he also be shy, too? I don’t have the guts to talk to him first! Haha. Any tips? :) Btw, I get really kilig when he “likes” my FB posts (ang babaw lol)
A: HE PROBABLY HAS A CRUSH ON YOU hehehehehehehee uyyyyyy kinikilig!!! Message him on Facebook about something random!! GO AHEAD, GIRL!!! Send him a funny meme or a video. Or, this worked on me before, some guy who never really talked to me in real life messaged me about a new ice cream promo at McDonald’s. I replied with, “is this an April Fool’s joke?” cos it was April 1 and he said it’s true and he’s going to check it out the next day. I could come with him to confirm daw. I thought it was well played. We went on a couple of dates after that.


Should You Keep Gifts From Your Exes?

Q: Do you think being friends with your ex is wise? Is it alright to keep stuff that your ex gave you? Or is that insensitive to your present partner?

Britney & Justin in the 90's
Britney & Justin in the 90’s

A: I think it’s okay to be friends if your partner doesn’t mind. I think being friends is normal but to go out of your way to stay friends at the expense of your present partner’s feelings is a bit too much.

I kept a very nice letter that my boyfriend wrote me after we broke up because it was very sweet and honest. An ex of mine (the one after him) found it in my wallet and flushed it down the toilet. It was very mean because it was mine and he had no right to do that (also, it wasn’t very good for the environment to flush it down the toilet). I think he could have asked me why I kept it and I could have said DAHIL MAHAL KO PA SIYA BWISIT KA!!! Char.

But I guess you should ask yourself why you feel the need to keep some of the stuff your ex gave you. If it’s a nice pair of sneakers that you can still use, then it would be stupid to throw them away. If it’s a sweet card that reminds you that you once shared a bond together, I would understand that as well. Although I feel like it would make your partner feel inadequate.

In retrospect, I kept that letter in my wallet because I was honestly not completely over him at the time and it was a bad decision to jump into another relationship right after. I don’t think I own anything from my exes today because of my recent obsessive de-cluttering. I have a few drawings and letters in my Antipolo home I can think of at the moment but that’s not hurting anybody and I could probably give it to my future biographer. LELZ.

Communication is key. Like, Jim probably still has stuff from his exes at his parents’ house but I’m not gonna be all OMG THROW THEM AWAY RIGHT NOW. I’m preeeeeeeetty sure we’re in love (see: Jim’s vows) and those things don’t matter to either of us anyway. Jim’s right beside me so I asked him, too.

Jim: “I think the first question you should ask yourself is if it’s practical. It’s more understandable to keep it. I had a guitar from an ex. I kept it until I found a new guitar, which made it less practical for me to hold on to the other one. That aside, I think the way these gifts are kept or displayed kind of reflect how you feel about them. A letter in a box in your drawer is fine. It just means it’s at the back end of your heart. But if it’s framed on your wall, then it still represents who you are now.”
Me: “Should you keep it secret? That box in your drawer?”
Jim: “No. But you should only say so when you’re asked..”
Me: “So meron kang box???”
Jim: “Di ko maalala.”
Me: “Paano kung binigyan ako ng poster na naka-frame sa wall?”
Jim: “Ang mura mura lang ng poster eh..”
Me: “Paano kung signed Death Cab For Cutie na poster?”
Jim: “Eh akin na yun.”

Okay, I have to go look for a box now. Hahaha joke lang! I guess what I’m saying is if you guys are confident in your relationship, you should be thinking about your future and not if your boyfriend is keeping gifts from their exes. We also asked two of our guy friends Ali and Panch about what they thought. They said they still have the first letter from their first girlfriend. Not because they’re still in love but because “it’s nice.” Jim said, “it’s not a reminder of the person, it’s a reminder of the experience. Of a first love. Of a failed love.”

My final say: as long as it’s not an STD, keep it if you want.

What about you guys? What gifts have you kept? What have you thrown away? Why? Share your insight, it would really help!:)


Ask Saab 43


Q: girl, ganda talaga ng style mo. effortless pero may class! so ang tanong ko girl ay, saan mo nabibili mga damit mo?! lalo na yung interview mo with Kevin Kwan?? TAGALOG para iba naman hahaha lurve u Saabae!!!! ♥
A: Hahaha madalas sa Topshop, girl! THANK YOU!

Q: Girl, nanonood ka ng Aldub? Bet mo?
A: Hindi eh pero nakanood na ako ng clips sa YouTube and nakakakilig yung unang nakita ni Yaya Dub si Alden tas na-self conscious siya haha.

Q: hi saab!:) i just wanna ask if where could i find that adiddas superstar color white like yours:-) muchas gracias gorgeous:-)-♥mhing
A: Hi Mhing! I got both my Superstars from Japan ABC Store!:) Much cheaper there!

Q: First, what happen to Grrl Scout and Duster? Sana tama spelling. Second, where do you usually buy clothes and if you have any limit or budget allotted to it. Last, what is your facial wash? Thanks Saab
A: Grrrl Scout is on hiatus because Candy and I formed a band with the rest of Cheats and we focused on that for the past few years. Duster was really a band fronted by Katwo Puertollano. She was supposed to move to the States and I was to step in as new frontman and then she didn’t move anymore and they decided to keep me (yay!). We recorded the album with all songs she wrote but then her work really did require her to move abroad. It just didn’t seem right to promote the album without her and to keep singing songs she wrote so currently it’s just on hiatus until Katwo decides to pick up the mic again. About the clothes, I’ve never had a budget and I just buy a lot at once (because I really don’t shop that often). My facial wash is Kiehl’s ultra facial wash :)

Q: Ever since you made that make up tutorial video and Maxene tweeted saying that you guys do one together, I’ve been waiting ever since!!! When are you making one??
A: We really should… Sige i-schedule ko next week. Haha.

Q: My mother always told me not to wear lipstick that much since they will make your lips pale and dark. Just wondering if you have had any experiences like this in the past? And what lipstick would you recommend for everyday use?
A: Oh I’ve never had that experience naman! I use L’Oreal Gentle Eye and Lip Makeup Remover. For everyday use, I really like using my new Dior Addict lipstick, the one being endorsed by mareng Jennifer Lawrence. Haha! It doesn’t dry up my lips and it’s a nice natural color.

Q: Can you twerk? Hahaha
A: No but I can ocho ocho

Q: Jollibee or McDo?
A: McDo for burgers, Jollibee for spaghetti hehe. Also, I like McDo fries better.

Q: Do you like Emily Strange as much as I do? Do you also collect her merchandise? Love ya!^_^
A: I was obsessed with her in high school!

Q: I have been a girl gamer since I was 5-6 years old. When did u start to play video games? Do you prefer PC or console games more? Me, console games.Much love!
A: At a very young age as well! My dad was a solid gamer and I used to just watch him play all the time. I like both PC and console games!:)

Q: What do you think of Echosmith and Paramore? Me I love em! Love u Saab!:)
A: I only know Cool Kids by Echosmith because we had to cover it for a debut hehe. Paramore songs are fun to sing along to!

Q: should i delete comments/pics of my ex on fb since i have a new bf already?
A: If you want to, but it’s not a requirement! I still have some pics of my exes on my Facebook because I don’t really use FB that much and I’m not about to go through all my albums just for that.. Haha. But if it bothers your partner, go ahead delete mo na. Haha.

Q: What’s the best advice you can give to a frustrated actress who can’t pursue her passion because of her flaws? (Pimples/pimple marks, and with a weight of 55kgs) Thanks, Saab!
A: Hey, that’s not a reason to stop pursuing acting.. Although there’s the harsh reality of cookie cutter pretty girls becoming the most famous ones even if their acting skills are so-so. But if your friend’s passion is really acting itself and not the fame, it’s not impossible to excel in the field. Indie films are always looking for “real” looking actors. The best advice you can give is to keep going.

Q: do you know john green and have you read his books? :)
A: Yes, I’ve read The Fault in Our Stars, Looking For Alaska, and Paper Towns :)

Q: is fmam single? hehehe
A: No Frank’s been with his girlfriend Denise for 3 years :)

Q: kanino ka pinaka close sa mga sibs mo? :)
A: Maxx

Q: what is your term of endearment with jim? :))))
A: Belly

Q: who is your ultimate favorite author?
A: I really enjoy reading books by Augusten Burroughs

Q: if you got elected as the president of the philippines, what would you do to solve the traffic and mass transit problems?
A: Cars should not be more than 10 years old and they should be regulated. Everybody here has a car. Because people see it as a necessity cos there’s no way to get around!! More trains. If you think about it, it’s not that expensive.. Think of all the time wasted on the road. People could be more productive if we could get to places faster. Less buses but scheduled stops at designated bus stops. It’s all about urban planning. But I really don’t think I’ll see a better mass transit system in my lifetime.

Q: What do you think of Lauren’s playing kontrabida to her ate Megan in Marimar? Would you also want to play kontrabida with Maxene or Moe? :)
A: Parang it’s so much fun.

Q: Saab, advice naman, There are a lot of counseling for those who got cheated on. But nothing about the cheater. Here’s the scenario: Si guy laging galit, di marunong mag alaga, si girl palagi nalang si suyo for like 6 yrs. Then suddenly cool off, si girl may na-meet na somebody she likes and made her feel special. Si guy galit pa din as usual, he never fought for his place. Then nung si girl iniwasan na si new guy, si girl naman balik kay bf. Si bf ayun galit pa din. HAHA! Kumabaga sa restaurant ” If We Don’t Take Care of the Customer, Somebody Else Will’ LOL Masisisi mo ba everything sa tao why she looked for a sweet caress from others. Psh.
A: Paano naging cheater yung girl kung cool off sila? At bakit niya pa binalikan? Ang sakin lang, hindi ka naman mamamatay kung breakan mo muna yung kasama mo bago ka mag-entertain ng iba diba?

Q: do you answer all your questions? or pili lang? just curious. :)
A: Almost all, basta may sense yung question.

Q: How do you deal with Man’s ego? :) Well especially for others na nag-hoard ata ng ego.
A: If he’s got something to back it up (like that Beyoncé song), it’s not so bad. If it’s all ego tapos wala namang reason kung bakit mayabang eh malabo na yun.

Q: Hi saabelly. Is your band close to flying ipis? Loveyouu
A: Yes!:)

Q: Any advice on first time sex?
A: Don’t do it! Chos. Use protection and make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons.

Q: Hello, I want to go to your gig but my husband does not want to. He’s the homebuddy type kasi, but I can’t convince him to go to Route 196 with me! He says madami daw “adik” and “lasenggero” haha! Even if I say that you go there. He’s a Francis M fan but he still thinks na baka daw magulo. How can I convince him kaya? Thanks! I hope to have a pic with you and I can die the next day. Joke may anak pa ko
A: Haha! Uy, kung ako nga kaya ko sa Route 196 siguro naman kakayanin ng husband mo dun. Walang adik dun. May mga nalalasing pero laging masaya lang. Conyo nga mga tao dun madalas eh lelz.

Q: What nude lipstick would you suggest? Thanks.
A: Darling Beige ng Shu Uemura, my makeup artist used it on me the other day and it’s so nice!

Q: You said before na ayaw mo ng baby boy kasi ayaw mo sa lahat ng idedate nila. So may pake ka ba sa mga dinedate ni baby brother mong si Elmo? =))
A: Di ko naman anak yun eh. Hahaha! Pero siyempre may pake ako! As long as my siblings’ partners bring out the best in them, wala akong reklamo.

Q: How did you cope when you lost your dad? I just lost mine a few months back
A: I’m very sorry for your loss :( It was really a matter of staying close to my family and spending a lot of time together. If anything, losing my dad brought our family closer together.

Q: Ate saab, saan po kayo regular na naggiGig?
A: Madalas sa Saguijo!

Q: Saab! Do you know leloy claudio? he was from ateneo and is currently working there as an assistant professor. crush ko kasi siya huhu
A: Oh he interviewed me before when he wrote a piece about my dad on Rogue magazine :)

Q: hi saab! i fight with my sister. most of the time I have no clue as to how or why it begins but she would rather do the cold shoulder no matter how hard I try. I used to do that but I’m trying to speak out instead to just clear the air but she wants none of it. She’s dealing with a lot, mind you. But, still I feel as though we can’t always give her a free pass just because of this and rather for her to start speaking out more and well beginning to act like an adult by speaking out and discussing things. Any advice? ang hirap talaga.
A: You can write her a letter?

Q: hi saab!!! how do you do your brows and what concealer do you recommend :) I wish we could do facetime or something like that you’re so insanely inspirational!!!! xx
A: Omg thank you so much hehe. I haven’t had my brows threaded in so long.. They’re very bushy so I sometimes have to cut the top a little bit. I just ordered Naturactor concealer because Maxx uses it and I borrowed it when we went to Japan. Makeup artists also highly recommend it :)

Q: Hi, Saab! Do you own a GoPro?
A: Yup!

Q: I think my best friend is inlove with me what should I do? I wanna get some advice from you .
A: I’m gonna need more information. Haha! Do you like him/her back? What’s stopping you?

Q: Hi Ms. Saab! I am just wondering how did you get to have a talk in UP about Boosting Your Self- Confidence last April :)
A: The org emailed me :)

Q: Can I get a virtual hug from you? :( Rigby, my two-month old puppy, is currently confined at a veterinary clinic. Huhu. She contracted parvovirus and we were told by the vet that she has a slim chance of surviving. I’m feeling really sad right now cuz she’s only been with me for 2 1/2 days. :'( I don’t want to lose her.
A: OMG! How is she now??:(

Q: kapag umaalis ka ng bansa, anong sinusulat mo sa occupation (departure card)? Writer? Actress? :)
A: Writer

Q: Hi Ate Saab, where did you buy your Sony A6000? :) Was it in Greenhills as well, same where you buy your phones? Thank you!
A: No, I got it from Sony mismo :)

Q: HI ate Saab! I just want to thank you for having this awesome blog. I actually can’t sleep right now so i just got my laptop and started reading your blog (im a big fan of you and jim hihi). anyway, this is my real problem, i think i’m a frustrated english speaker (or whatever you call it ahahaha). it’s like i need to construct my sentence first in my head before saying it and that really takes a lot of time so i always ended up saying “okay”, “ahh” “sorry” :( what am i going to do? huhu ps: sorry for this long message. this is how frustrated i am with myself. :(
A: Awww.. Well, my question is: is it necessary for you to speak in English? Why do you feel the need to speak in English? How do you think? English ba or Tagalog? If you really want to start speaking in English you’re going to have to train your mind to start thinking in English :)

Q: Mom keeps telling me to save my virginity until marriage. How should I react during the times she reminds me to (I’m not a virgin anymore but she doesnt and shouldn’t know)?
A: Just say okay. Hehe. She’s your mom but she doesn’t need to know that part of your private life especially if you’re already an adult. Still, as long as you live under her roof you will have to follow her rules so.. That’s something to think about!

Q: I have thin forearms and flabby upper arms. How do I balance them out?
A: A few upper arm exercises would help! I’m not a fitness expert but I think push ups would help?:)

Q: pano nagkakilala si maxx & rob?
A: Maxx goes to gigs, Rob’s in a band.

Q: how old is chelo?
A: She’s a year younger than me so 26

Q: kilala mo ba si helga weber or camie juan??
A: Yes, we met at a dinner together once at a Nuffnang event! And I see Helga during gigs :)

Q: do you want to visit siargao??
A: Yes especially because one of my college BFFs lives there now

Q: Umakyat kna ng bundok?? If yes, saan?
A: I’m not sure but I think so back in high school. We climbed a mountain called peak 27 or peak 28? It was in Tanay. Lelz.

Q: Gsto mo bang magpa gray hair?
A: Nah!

Q: creative writing din ba si chelo??
A: Nope!

Q: my blog ba si candy??
A: Nope

Q: if let’s say 25k lang sweldo mo, mgrerent kba ng condo on your own??
A: Kukuha ako ng room mate.