Spell Saab

Today was a particularly stressful day.

Backstory: I’ve been looking for a stay-in helper for our condo and my mom’s auntie recommended one. She stayed for a month and a half in our Antipolo home being trained by our favorite Yaya Gleza. She had no prior experience at 18 years old. I think I mentioned her briefly in one of my recent blog posts. I was excited to finally have a stay-in helper. Since I went to college 10 years ago, I haven’t had the help of a kasambahay. It was only when I got married that Jim’s tita who lives in the same building offered to share her maid’s time with us. From 1-4pm she would come and clean our place then walk Joey. I thought it was a pretty good deal since she doubled her salary that way. Our tita even went to the States for 3 months so her work became much easier. Somehow though, in early December around the time our tita came home she said she couldn’t work 2 jobs anymore.

I thought it was a great set-up that we had a cleaning lady and we still had our privacy in our home. But we do have a maid’s room that’s been collecting junk for a year.

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BEFORE

I really can’t cook and I don’t have the time and patience to cook (remember when I made macaroni salad for 5 hours?) so I thought it was time to have somebody help take care of the apartment, Jim, Joey and me. This is really difficult for me because I am naturally a Type A person and I like doing things myself. Picture Monica from FRIENDS.

monica

So I worked very hard on cleaning the maid’s room. Mom said I was crazy because I should have waited for the maid to come and she would’ve help me clean it, but I couldn’t wait! I was so fixated! Jim and I kept asking, “How will we keep her entertained? What will she do the whole day??” We’re such noobs at this whole thing. So the bed finally arrived from Mandaue Foam (it is gorgeous with storage drawers underneath!) and I gave mom the go signal that I was ready for Vanessa to move in yesterday. I asked our driver to pick her up from Antipolo but when she arrived she had no bags with her. I asked her why and she said she didn’t understand that she was moving in already. So she just cleaned the place a little bit and then I told her, “okay, so you can go home now and then get your stuff tapos balik ka nalang dito.” She said okay but with a frown. I asked what was wrong and she said, “pwede bukas nalang?” I said okay and asked our driver to bring her back home to Antipolo. I even bought her some Bonamine because she’s not used to car rides daw.

Jim said he noticed that she didn’t seem happy to be transferring to our condo from Antipolo and I should ask her straight up if she was going to last with us or what? I called her up last night and we had what I thought was a good talk. I said, “Unang beses kami magkakaroon ng kasama dito sa condo namin kaya gusto namin maganda yung relationship natin at masaya ka dito. Hindi ka naman uutus-utusan lang dito, ang kailangan namin yung taong tutulong sa paglinis ng condo, sa pag-alaga kay Joey and sa amin ni Jim.” She said she was just afraid of being lonely and I told her she would make many friends here because I always talk to the yayas walking the neighbors’ dogs and they seem to have a good community! They walk around the park, exchanging stories, while their dogs become friends as well. I said she would have a day off every week so she would definitely have free time. She asked if her sister could visit her kahit sa may lobby lang, I said yes if she’s done with work and she could even walk Joey while she meets up with her sister downstairs. I asked her, “So sa tingin mo ba magiging masaya ka dito sa amin?” She said yes and we said goodnight.

This morning she arrived with her bags at 10AM. I was so excited and I asked her to come with me to Rustan’s so we could buy her food since I’m on Diet Diva delivery (love you, Diet Diva!) and Jim prefers black rice and she said she wasn’t used to that. Chicken and beef were already in the freezer so I told her to pick out her veggies, fruits, canned goods, rice, whatever else she wanted! She even said she didn’t have toothpaste anymore so I got her a tube and some sanitary napkins as well. She seemed very shy but eager to learn.

Anyway, so I had to leave for an appointment with a TMJ specialist because I found out Invisalign does not help with my TMJ problem (that’s another story). I taught her how to use the rice cooker before leaving her with Jim and Joey. Not 10 minutes out the door, Jim calls me and says Vanessa was leaving. WHAT?? She even said she didn’t bring her things with her yesterday on purpose. She really planned to leave daw and just live with her sister. I couldn’t believe it. I felt so sad but I told Jim to just let her go if she didn’t want to be there. Maybe it wasn’t meant to be.

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AFTER. Bed from Mandaue Foam, a toy guitar in case she wanted to learn how to play, paper bag of her toothpaste and napkin, nozzles of my new vacuum. Hahaha

Ang ending: I bought a new Dyson vacuum cleaner as retail therapy. LELZ. But that’s for another post.

Some of you will probably think this is an entitled post by a brat who wants a yaya but no, fuck that, Jim and I work hard and we need help. The search continues. #TitaProblems

♥,
Saab

Saab

54 Comments

  1. Reply

    Yna

    January 7, 2016

    Labo ni Vanessa! I would gladly sign up for this job kung wala lang akong trabaho no! Hahaha to walk joey bear. See you everyday. And Jim too. (I’m totally not creepy) tpos free toothpaste and napkins? LIFE. HAHA

    • Reply

      Saab

      January 7, 2016

      LOL

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      Khaz

      January 11, 2016

      hahahaha #Goals

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    Christine

    January 7, 2016

    She should have been upfront with you if she didn’t want to work for you. I mean, you made the effort to make her comfortable and clean her room and everything.

    Good luck on finding help!

    -Christine
    http://www.christinelovestotravel.com

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      Saab

      January 7, 2016

      Right on. Thanks!

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    Andi

    January 7, 2016

    PARANG GUSTO KONG MAG-APPLY!!! Chos HAHAHAHAHA

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      Saab

      January 7, 2016

      Hahahaha

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    LOUIE

    January 7, 2016

    Damn!!! The room tho. Nice and clean plus a guitar!!!! I think nahiya talaga siya on your super special treatment hahaha!

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    LOUIE

    January 7, 2016

    Aruga

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    Jane

    January 7, 2016

    I hope you find a yaya na will treat you as family. Ang hirap maghanap ng kasama sa bahay these days, bibigay mo na lahat iiwan ka pa rin nila. :'(
    #hugot

    Good luck! :)

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    Liezel D.

    January 7, 2016

    AKO na lang Saab :) hehe and Swerte na nya sana. haha

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    Avid

    January 7, 2016

    Hey, I hope you can consider her side… It’s never easy to live with people, just because kasambahayahip is the norm in our country, it does not come with a set of rules like most jobs… In fact it is so poorly defined. I am certain you would have been great and kind employers, but she did not know that. If anything, atleast she left early on, not while you were relying on her already. A room, a bed, a nice boss, the possibility of making friends with other yayas… Maaring galing siya sa mababang economic level, pero gaya mo, tao siya, maraming rason at complexities. Paumanhin… Gusto ko lang san sumalungat sa malamang magiging general reaction sa post na ito na “ang arte ni yaya!”

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      Saab

      January 7, 2016

      Hi Avid, thanks for playing devil’s advocate here. Although I really don’t think there’s an excuse for her deceit. After all the opportunities she could have told me she didn’t want to work for me, it really feels like she just used me for a free ride down Antipolo. Full disclosure, my mom even paid to fix her teeth because a few had fallen out so after all those dental appointments to rectify her oral hygiene, I thought it was really ungrateful of her to leave just like that. You’re right it’s never easy to live with people and I feel the same way that’s why I’ve been very busy researching the kasambahay law and making sure everything’s good for her here so we’re all happy. Just because mas “may kaya” ako hindi ibig sabihin nun hindi ako pwede maging biktima hehe.

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    andrea

    January 7, 2016

    sana puede ako =) hehe

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    Andrea Talledo

    January 7, 2016

    Ang gulo nman kausap ni Vanessa! grabe sya oh! hahaha may guitar pa, baka pwede pa siya sumama sa gig mo. haaay naku vanesa.. hehehe kidding aside, finding a maid is like looking for a soulmate. sa tamamg panahon saab she’ll come. love moves in mysterious ways. ano daw?! goodluck! hope you find a perfect helper that will take care of baby joey and you guys. that bed tho.. :)

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    Ley S.

    January 7, 2016

    The “toy guitar in case she wanted to learn how to play” part got me sold! Hahahaa. Can I apply too?!?

    Seriously though, it’s reallyyyy hard to find good help these days. My family end up just doing all the work ourselves out of frustration (We keep experiencing the same thing you guys did. Haha.) And congrats on the new vacuum! Our vacuum became my best friend during the holidays. Buti pa ang vacuum, it won’t just suddenly leave you. LOL

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      Saab

      January 8, 2016

      I LOVE our new vacuum!!

  12. Reply

    ChaJN

    January 7, 2016

    In fairness, iniwan nya ang toothpaste and napkins. :) Looking for kasambahay nowadays is really a #lifestruggle. I feel you! Ideal din talaga ang hindi stay-in. You still have privacy at home and kung low-maintenance naman kayo, ok lang na wala na sila after dinner chores.

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    Diana

    January 7, 2016

    I never had a bedroom of my own since I was a child. Ako na lang pleaseee. I’m a Star Wars fan too. Hahahahahahaha. And also the guitar huhubelsz

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    EJ

    January 7, 2016

    Ang bongga nung kama ha. Wala pa man spoiled na sya, sabay ganun :( Makakahanap ka din ng tamang tao para sa inyo at sa place nyo. Patience! Hehe!

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    pinkfive

    January 7, 2016

    I am more Tita than you because I turned 35 last Monday. :) Been married for 5 years and no helper from the start. I am also like Monica and we live in a condo. Parang mas okay sa akin na wala kaming helper even if we were both working kasi parang bahay-bahayan. I cooked and cleaned, yung laundry sa laundry service. Then I got pregnant on our 4th year of marriage. We had to get a helper stat but it was so hard to find one that the first (of many!) arrived when I was already 8 months pregnant. Then she left us a couple of weeks after I gave birth.

    Since then, we’ve had four helpers and si baby 1 year old pa lang. No matter how good of an employer you are, they will leave, and the reasons are endless and kaloka – from ayaw ng asawa na nasa malayo to needing fresh air (whut?!).

    So after that nobela, I think okay yung set-up that you get a stay-out cleaning lady or hire a cleaning service. Enjoy the privacy, it will fly out the window once may stay-in even if she has a separate room. And she will most likely get bored if your place is small and some of your meals get delivered.

    But if you really do need one, it’s true na parang tadhana. Habaan ang pasensya at bawasan ang pagka-Monica – things that I tell myself haha.

    Just my two cents. :)

    • Reply

      Saab

      January 8, 2016

      Thank you!! Haha bawasan ang pagka-Monica!!

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    Pao

    January 7, 2016

    Hi! I’ll try to make a blog similar to this. Because I’ve met some kasambahay, labandera and yaya na din. They all have one thing in common ,Magulo talaga sila kausap. Pag kaharap ka, pag tinanong mo okay naman lahat, kahit na sobrang honest ka na sa kanila or kahit anong bait mo sa kanila. Magulo at Magulo talaga sila kausap. I always say na sabihin lang kung may kailangan, ano yung ayaw nila, and even telling them , I want them to be comfortable for what they are going to do and sa amin din. Kaya lang ganon talaga sila. Masakit sila sa ulo, madali sila ma-intimidate. I suggest you ask about their background in a way na hindi nila mano-notice na nag iimbestiga ka.

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      Saab

      January 8, 2016

      Thanks!

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    Camz

    January 7, 2016

    Hi Saab! I think you’re very sweet and considerate to her. Just recently I’ve been reading similar stories sa Girl Talk forum about domestic help. Medyo bihira talaga ang nagtatagal sa kanila, for reasons I don’t really understand. But one advice that I think makes sense from one of the posters is to make it clear from the get-go that you are the boss and they will follow your lead (lalo na Type A person ka), no exceptions. It’s a recurring theme kasi eh: palasagot, nag-lileave ng walang paalam, mas bossy pa sayo, etc. Kaya I think as much as we want to treat our kasambahay like family, we have to be firm na like any other job, we are the boss and they are the employee. Madalas kasi pag mabait ka lumalaki yung ulo. Siguro when they stay for a certain period of time na palagay na loob mo sa kanya, saka siya pwede i-treat more like a family. I would also advice you to get CCTV or IP cameras installed. Ang daming horror stories of kasambahays stealing or worse letting strangers in the house.

    Here, there are lots of useful and entertaining stories in this thread: http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/board,164.0.html you might even find a referral. Good luck on your hunt!

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      Saab

      January 8, 2016

      Thanks so much, this was very helpful!!

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    Mina

    January 7, 2016

    Gorgeous bed and free guitar? Sign me up! I’m a good cook too! Haha. Labo ni Vanessa. Sana makahanap na kayo ng kasambahay soon. :)

  19. Reply

    LLANA

    January 7, 2016

    Hi! Ang swerte nya ang ganda ng bed nya! huhu

    Btw, how much is that bed from Mandaue foam? is it customized? :) TYIA!

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      Saab

      January 10, 2016

      No, it’s just from the store! I’m asking them how much it is but I’m still waiting for their reply :)

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        Llana

        January 15, 2016

        then i shall wait for your reply too! :) thank you so much, Saab. <3 more power! :)

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    MITCH

    January 7, 2016

    Kakaloka! Medyo similar ‘to sa nangyari samin last year. Our helper for almost a year left. Unang paalam niya magbabakasyon siya sa kapatid niya for 1 week, my mom allowed her kasi ‘di naman siya nag dday-off weekly. Then, nung hinihintay na namin siya bumalik, my mom told us na our helper said na hindi na daw siya babalik kasi pagod na daw siya. We were shocked dahil impossible na mapagod siya kasi sobrang luwag namin sakanya, and she can rest naman whenever the hell she wants. Anyway, buti nalang mabait mom ko so hinayaan nalang niya. Kakainis lang kasi I gave her my old clothes and a lot of my doll shoes para maipamigay niya sa relatives niya tapos ‘di na pala siya babalik! Dyahe.

    Good luck on your search, Tita Saab! Hahahaha!

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      Saab

      January 8, 2016

      :( Mahirap maghanap ng may good values eh kasi iba iba ang upbringing ng mga tao. Sorry to hear about your helper!

  21. Reply

    Jarvis

    January 7, 2016

    tawang tawa ako dun sa guitar. i mean, saab, you’re so cute. haha

  22. Reply

    Jude

    January 7, 2016

    Hello! We’re also having a hard time finding the perfect maid huhu. :(( Sorry ang random but good luck to us na lang. :(

  23. Reply

    Jel

    January 7, 2016

    Feel ko natakot siya kay jim haha

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      Saab

      January 8, 2016

      Sinong matatakot sa cutie pie na yun haha

  24. Reply

    Lovelle Logronio

    January 7, 2016

    Omg choosy pa baaaa?? Ako na! I volunteer Saab! After my board exams, msg me your address nang makapag selfie na sa new room ko! Hahahaha

    • Reply

      Saab

      January 8, 2016

      LOL

  25. Reply

    Mea

    January 8, 2016

    Hi Saab! I believe there are “yaya agencies”

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      Saab

      January 8, 2016

      Yup, trying one out now! So far so good!!

  26. Reply

    Kat

    January 8, 2016

    Mag volunteer na ko para maging yaya lalong lalo na kay jim! pagsisilbihan ko siya for
    free hahahehe :)

    • Reply

      Saab

      January 8, 2016

      Huy you’re fired agad for favoritism!! Charot!!

  27. Reply

    Justine

    January 8, 2016

    Don’t stress about it. You’re giving an employment opportunity to someone who’s in need and I hope the next one will be deserving. Good luck! We actually have the opposite situation. Our helper left us so now we only have someone who comes in few times a week to do chores.

  28. Reply

    Grems

    January 8, 2016

    PWEDE BANG MAG-APPLY?!?! Kahit ako na plane ticket from ILO-MNL. Chozzzzzz. You had me at “Mandaue Foam (it is gorgeous with storage drawers underneath!)” that’s my dream bed hahaha. Hope you can find a trustworthy yaya soon!

  29. Reply

    lani

    January 8, 2016

    paki post nga pic sarap sampalin! grabe mga tao nowadays sobrang aarte! not that I am being a bitchpero grabeeeeeeee talaga! mas sosyal pa sa amo grrrrrrrrrrrrr…puro arte at demands pa…my goodness..sarap manampal

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      Saab

      January 10, 2016

      Grabe, wag naman sampalin! Haha. As my mom would say, I’ve already put her in my “ipasa-Diyos file” God bless her

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    Marie Bernadette G. Quilala

    January 9, 2016

    Super duper willing to apply to be your kasambahay Saab! I’m still learning how to cook (though I know how to cook rice & fry! hehehe) If only time permits, I’m currently baby-sitting/taking care of my nephew while his mom’s (AKA my single mother ate) at work & other than that, I don’t have anything else to do. Social Life, medyo zero hahaha. I’m an out-of-school youth but after while I was home-schooled :) Best of luck on finding a proper house helper! :)

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      Saab

      January 10, 2016

      I’ve already found a girl and so far she’s been great!:D Thanks!!

      • Reply

        secretwalangclue

        January 11, 2016

        blog about her! :D

  31. Reply

    Ana

    January 12, 2016

    You are not a brat at all! =) It was nice of you make an effort to make sure that she is going to be comfortable and that she has everything she might need. In our experience, medyo hirap talaga to have someone who is young (18-21 yrs old) because they get bored easily! Hope everything goes well with you and the new girl you found. =)

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    Lyn

    January 12, 2016

    Oh my! Don’t worry, this entry is very acceptable and maybe because I had similar experienceS already, yes with capital s. To top it off, I have a 1 year old who was left alone in the house by the yaya. huhuhu! anyway, it is just so nice to know (bright side) that I am not alone in this “adulting” issues: yaya, helper, driver issues. Yes, your search continues and I hope you find someone OK soon, as I have found mine. Take note, it will get trickier once you decide to have a baby! Good luck! I love reading your posts, reminds me even young adults can still have fun besides what society/strict parents expect haha! :P

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    Jewel Clicks

    January 12, 2016

    Oh noess! hirap naman. Pero grabe may TMJ ka pa rin! :O I thought you are okay na kasi nag braces ka rin dba?

    good luck sa search for yaya! :)

  34. Reply

    Che

    January 16, 2016

    Well…can I just have the guitar hehe

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