Today was a particularly stressful day.
Backstory: I’ve been looking for a stay-in helper for our condo and my mom’s auntie recommended one. She stayed for a month and a half in our Antipolo home being trained by our favorite Yaya Gleza. She had no prior experience at 18 years old. I think I mentioned her briefly in one of my recent blog posts. I was excited to finally have a stay-in helper. Since I went to college 10 years ago, I haven’t had the help of a kasambahay. It was only when I got married that Jim’s tita who lives in the same building offered to share her maid’s time with us. From 1-4pm she would come and clean our place then walk Joey. I thought it was a pretty good deal since she doubled her salary that way. Our tita even went to the States for 3 months so her work became much easier. Somehow though, in early December around the time our tita came home she said she couldn’t work 2 jobs anymore.
I thought it was a great set-up that we had a cleaning lady and we still had our privacy in our home. But we do have a maid’s room that’s been collecting junk for a year.
I really can’t cook and I don’t have the time and patience to cook (remember when I made macaroni salad for 5 hours?) so I thought it was time to have somebody help take care of the apartment, Jim, Joey and me. This is really difficult for me because I am naturally a Type A person and I like doing things myself. Picture Monica from FRIENDS.
So I worked very hard on cleaning the maid’s room. Mom said I was crazy because I should have waited for the maid to come and she would’ve help me clean it, but I couldn’t wait! I was so fixated! Jim and I kept asking, “How will we keep her entertained? What will she do the whole day??” We’re such noobs at this whole thing. So the bed finally arrived from Mandaue Foam (it is gorgeous with storage drawers underneath!) and I gave mom the go signal that I was ready for Vanessa to move in yesterday. I asked our driver to pick her up from Antipolo but when she arrived she had no bags with her. I asked her why and she said she didn’t understand that she was moving in already. So she just cleaned the place a little bit and then I told her, “okay, so you can go home now and then get your stuff tapos balik ka nalang dito.” She said okay but with a frown. I asked what was wrong and she said, “pwede bukas nalang?” I said okay and asked our driver to bring her back home to Antipolo. I even bought her some Bonamine because she’s not used to car rides daw.
Jim said he noticed that she didn’t seem happy to be transferring to our condo from Antipolo and I should ask her straight up if she was going to last with us or what? I called her up last night and we had what I thought was a good talk. I said, “Unang beses kami magkakaroon ng kasama dito sa condo namin kaya gusto namin maganda yung relationship natin at masaya ka dito. Hindi ka naman uutus-utusan lang dito, ang kailangan namin yung taong tutulong sa paglinis ng condo, sa pag-alaga kay Joey and sa amin ni Jim.” She said she was just afraid of being lonely and I told her she would make many friends here because I always talk to the yayas walking the neighbors’ dogs and they seem to have a good community! They walk around the park, exchanging stories, while their dogs become friends as well. I said she would have a day off every week so she would definitely have free time. She asked if her sister could visit her kahit sa may lobby lang, I said yes if she’s done with work and she could even walk Joey while she meets up with her sister downstairs. I asked her, “So sa tingin mo ba magiging masaya ka dito sa amin?” She said yes and we said goodnight.
This morning she arrived with her bags at 10AM. I was so excited and I asked her to come with me to Rustan’s so we could buy her food since I’m on Diet Diva delivery (love you, Diet Diva!) and Jim prefers black rice and she said she wasn’t used to that. Chicken and beef were already in the freezer so I told her to pick out her veggies, fruits, canned goods, rice, whatever else she wanted! She even said she didn’t have toothpaste anymore so I got her a tube and some sanitary napkins as well. She seemed very shy but eager to learn.
Anyway, so I had to leave for an appointment with a TMJ specialist because I found out Invisalign does not help with my TMJ problem (that’s another story). I taught her how to use the rice cooker before leaving her with Jim and Joey. Not 10 minutes out the door, Jim calls me and says Vanessa was leaving. WHAT?? She even said she didn’t bring her things with her yesterday on purpose. She really planned to leave daw and just live with her sister. I couldn’t believe it. I felt so sad but I told Jim to just let her go if she didn’t want to be there. Maybe it wasn’t meant to be.
Ang ending: I bought a new Dyson vacuum cleaner as retail therapy. LELZ. But that’s for another post.
Some of you will probably think this is an entitled post by a brat who wants a yaya but no, fuck that, Jim and I work hard and we need help. The search continues. #TitaProblems