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Wake Up With Jim & Saab: Should Your Family Stay Friends With Your Ex?

June 13, 2017 14 Comments

QUESTION: how would you feel if your boyfriend’s ex still talks to his family and wants to keep in touch? is it wrong to feel slightly upset about it?

♥,
Saab

June 14, 2017

Saab

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    Paddypadfoot

    June 13, 2017

    Interesting! Just had this dilemna lately so let me just share my 2 cents: I think it all boils down to how close was the ex to your family before and/or during the relationship? If they were friends with your siblings before you even became a couple then I think continuing the friendship with the ex is understandable. If they got close during their relationship and they really became friends and you don’t mind, then that’s acceptable, too. Not all breakups are messy, anyway, so this is possible. Current gf has no say, I think, because they were friends with your ex before she (current gf) entered the scene.

    What I don’t get is when they become close after you have ended your relationship. It doesn’t make sense to build a relationship with the ex if you’re not even friends before. Occassional greetings are acceptable but super chummy convo, i.e. Planning a trip together, especially in social media for everyone to see is annoying and upsetting.

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      Ron

      June 14, 2017

      “What I don’t get is when they become close after you have ended your relationship. It doesn’t make sense to build a relationship with the ex if you’re not even friends before. Occasional greetings are acceptable but super chummy convo…”

      THIS! Almost 5 years of dealing with this. They, apparently, didn’t like her during the relationship (or at least, not very close) but after that, she was “best friends” na with the sibling (traveling and all) then would still talk regularly to the mother and even planned to go to a concert (which didn’t push through). But WTH. I don’t get it? Especially when I know the ex, the sibling and another friend of theirs talk badly about me (word travels), even the mother knows about the backstabbing and yet they still tolerate her. I get angry from time to time but try to forget about it na lang because wala naman talaga akong magagawa. I wouldn’t want them to stop being friends because that’s not my right, but at least, be civil about it. Stop pulling me into issues that is almost 5 years old na. Goodness. My boyfriend and I are frustrated.

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    Gel

    June 13, 2017

    Hi Ms. Saab! I really admire you and your relationship with Jimm. I hope to see you!😊

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    Gel

    June 13, 2017

    Hi Saab! I really love watching your ask jim and saab videos. Regarding your last video may question po sana aq. Nasa same situation kc aq. My bestfriend/ex bf’s family lalo na parents (na nasa US na ngayon) is super close parin po sa akin and sa parents q din po kasi naging friends na talaga sila and sa tingin q mas close sila ngaun kasi nagmemessage ung parents ng ex q sa mom and dad q every once in a while. Every time na uuwi cla dito sa Pinas iniinvite kami sa house nila or kahit ako lang po pinapavisit nila sa kanila. Yung ex q okay lang sa kanya kasi naging bestfriends nga kami kaya wala talaga awkward moment and ung break up namin mutual na friends ulit agd kami right after break up. Yung gf ngaun ng ex q alam q hndi comfortable na nakikita q pa ex q kc she confronted me via txt and messenger like inaway nya aq talga na layuan bf nya which is ginagawa q naman talaga. Kaso sobrang bait ng parents nya sa family q kaya kapag iniinvite kami pumupunta naman kami pero tinatanong q naman ung ex q kung okay lang sa kanya na pumunta kami and okay naman sa kanya. Yung gf nya sabi sakin wala naman daw sya magagawa kung close talaga ako and parents q sa family ng bf nya. Ibig sabihin ba nun may consent ng current gf yung pagiging close ng family q sa family ng ex q? Pano q po kaya ihandle ung ganun? Ang hirap po kasi iwasan ng family ng ex q kc sobrang bait nila and turing n nila sakin parang anak. Tapos close pa sila sa parents q parang kumare and kumpare ganun po. I want to know po ung advice nyo regarding sa situation q. Thanks. Ms. Saab wag na po sana post etong message q or wag lahat ang haba kc. Thanks alot. Sobrang fan mo po ako. Sana makareply ka po kahit sa email. Salamat po

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    Kim Reina

    June 13, 2017

    EEEEE :> The two of you are adorablol!

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    Adel Gumangan

    June 13, 2017

    Hi Saab! For almost 4 years I’ve been dealing with this kind of situation. Take note, not onyly my bf’s relatives but his friends as well. I think it’s a case to case basis to feel slightly upset about it. Like for example she’s visitng the parents ng biglaan with matching pasalubong na food (not pochero hahaha). Where in the first place, they are not even close. Then tagging tbt pictures of my bf’s friends. With the caption “we are the original girls”. For me, I really find it entertaining na rin she’s like showing the world “hey! Im pathetic” hahahah! Some exes kc are very “sutil” for whatsover reason. So yeah! That’s my take, its a case to case basis.

    As a current gf, always take the high road. *flip hair* hahahaha

    More power to u Saab. May God bless you and Jim.

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      Saab

      June 14, 2017

      Very good for taking the high road!!! Jusko, 4 years na, may parinig pa siya ng original girls? Nakahanap lang ng other word for “luma” si ate girl. Chos.

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    Mayee

    June 13, 2017

    Okay, since I’ve had no relationship na familial levels yet (patago lang hahaha), I’m not gonna elaborate on my comment on the actual topic except agreeing with you na if you’re already friends with the sibling/s it’s fine. I am still friends / talking-basis with my brother’s ex kahit sila hindi na sila nag-uusap so, there :)

    But I have questions on this episode:
    1. Is Jim briefed, like, the night before shooting an episode of WUWJ&S? I’m guessing not? Hahaha.
    2. Bakit mo naisip yung Pochero? Hahaha! It’s commonly pork / pig in our kusina but it can be beef or chicken also, think of Nilaga but cooked in tomato sauce. P.S. Hindi ko pa na-try magluto nito. :p

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      Saab

      June 14, 2017

      1. No, he’s not briefed at all. Hahaha. Shet, akala ko tinanong mo kung naka brief siya. CHAROT.
      2. My college friend made a joke about pochero before and it just cracked me up cos it sounds funny!

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    Ninya

    June 14, 2017

    Nakalimutan mo Saab ang kape?
    Nafeel ko yung latency ni Jim…
    :-)
    Cucheechuchee Joeybear!
    – respect level lang, you are right not to the point that he still show up sa lahat ng family events..makikain pag masarap ulam nyo or maki wifi pag walang signal sa bahay nila :-)
    More SaabTV pleath! <3

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    Kim

    June 14, 2017

    Hassle yung putchero!!! Hahahah

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    dellyyy

    June 14, 2017

    I watched it in the office. super nakakatawa <3
    cutie ni Jim parang super deep ng iniisip nya but he can't explain it hahaha. labyu saab <3

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    thhhh

    June 14, 2017

    that was my question haha! i was just hoping for a reply from your asksaab posts but then i got a video reply from you and jim! hahah! thanks saab.

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    Anonymous

    June 14, 2017

    I can relate with this. BFF ng sis in law ko ang ex ng husband ko even before the relationship and wala ako magagawa if still very much connected sila after mag end yung relationship. Ito ung situation na kailangan ko accept kahit sobrang di ako comfortable. But my husband respect naman, pinutol nya lahat ng connection with the ex to make me feel secure. Honestly, Di ko alam gagawin ko if ever nasa same event kami with the ex, I just feel awkward just thinking about it.

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