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What’s The Deal With Flirting?

· Photo by Inez Moro, 2011 ·

March 1, 2017 12 Comments

Lately, I’ve been getting a lot of #AskSaab questions about boys and how to know if they like you or if it’s okay to make the first move. I’m the last person to give you tips on how to flirt. I actually did a Google search on “how to flirt with guys” before writing this blog post. I want to make sure I’m giving the right advice. I SURE HOPE JIM READS THIS IN CASE HE FINDS IT IN MY SEARCH HISTORY. You’re the only one I like to flirt with, sweetheart. ;)

Anyway. Remember high school and how it was the worst-thing-ever to be branded a flirt? If other girls saw you talking to a boy, you were immediately a *gasp* FLIRT!! I guess it’s the whole all-boys/all-girls upbringing that made any interaction with the opposite sex taboo. Feel free to talk to anybody — girls and boys. Who cares if you’re called a flirt by someone who can’t take it that you’re talking to another human being? If they call you a flirt, just yell out O.A.! Haha!

This is why most of us are so awkward with boys (or the other way around). Thankfully, I grew up with 4 brothers but most girls aren’t so lucky. If you’re clueless about how to interact with boys, it would be disastrous when you’re around the ones you actually like.

Gone are the days when a girl had to wait for a guy to approach her first. If you see somebody that you’d like to know better, you should simply smile and start a conversation. Look for a reason to talk to him.

Are you at a bar? You can go up to him and ask, “Excuse me, are you in line?” before ordering your drink. Then you can do a bit of small talk (“Ugh, this song sucks!”) while waiting for your order. If he responds, follow it up with some more (“Diba?? The Chainsmokers are the worst!”) and when he laughs you can introduce yourself and then talk a little bit more if wala pa yung drink (“I’m Saab, I’m not usually this nega, sorry!” *if he gives you his name, he’s probably into you too* “Anyway, if you want to talk about songs we DON’T hate, I’ll be over there with my friends! See ya!”) BONGGA!! Can I write a rom-com or what?!

If he doesn’t go up to you then at least you still got to talk to a cute guy, right? Don’t ever feel like you’re not allowed to do so! I think there’s nothing sexier than a confident woman.

If you want more tips to let a guy know you’re into them, watch the San Mig Light video below starring Joseph Marco and Tom Rodriguez:

Cracking my knuckles to answer the next batch of #AskSaab questions. I should get a bucket of beer because #MahabahabangInuman yata ito (see what I did there? hehe). Any experiences in flirting? Was it a success or a total flop? I’d love to hear about it. Pagtawanan nalang natin kahit fail man yan. Haha!:p

♥,
Saab

February 27, 2017
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12 Comments

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    Jecca Dela Cruz

    March 1, 2017

    Jim’s smile in the photo made him look like Dustin in Stranger Things hehe. Kulang na lang curly hair ๐Ÿ˜

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    Mikako

    March 2, 2017

    Hey, Ate Sab! Your post was just in good timing. Do I really have to start to flirt? haha ha because I’m a quiet, reserved type of person and I might be still living in my old fantasy that a guy would approach me in my comfort zone. Napagod na ba sila? :(

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      Saab

      March 2, 2017

      No, you don’t have to start it up if you don’t want to. But if you want to catch someone’s attention, why not try it?:) Wouldn’t it be a better fantasy to be the one in control of the situation?

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    Jessica Barcenas

    March 2, 2017

    haha cutie

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    Ayeesha

    March 2, 2017

    But what if the guy in the bar does not even acknowledge my presence? Like kebs lang sya. Jahe!

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      Saab

      March 2, 2017

      Okay lang, it’s like you were just talking to yourself. If he doesn’t respond, then he’s the weirdo with no social skills. Don’t be embarrassed!:)

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    Ayie

    March 3, 2017

    Hi Saab! So there’s this one guy who I really like. Wait no, he was the first one who tried to communicate with me, though he was my crush, he asked for my number and then we started to exchange msgs, he was actually sweet.. He usually tells me before that he’s torpe and all for he is NGSB. When I started to tell him I’m starting to like him, he told me he’s not sure about himself. And that he doesn’t like commit. :( He even told me that “friends muna, as for now”.. What should I do? Thank you!!

    PS! Can I know if when’s ur sched in cup fiction? Wanna visit it soon and see u in person as well <3

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      Saab

      March 7, 2017

      Hello! Well, given the limited details of your situation – I would say be his friend if he can’t commit. At least he’s honest about it. If you’re feeling hurt then maybe you can keep some distance between you for a while. If you feel like you’d rather have him in your life as a friend than nothing at all, then be a friend to him. You wouldn’t want him to pressure you to be anything more if it were the other way around, right? :)

      We have weekly meetings every Tuesday!:)

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        Ayie

        March 7, 2017

        Thanks saab <3 hoping to see you real soon because you're my life peg <3

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    Paula

    March 4, 2017

    I like how you start your post here, pretty clever actually. I can relate how this norm of being Maria Clara since my father’s household was more of Spanish upbringing. There are perks tho and definitely a downside but I manage to adapt and balance it with the new world.

    In bar situation, I usually drink first because I transform into my ms. congeniality alter ego plus its soooo weird that I kept on talking in English accent #fading. The thing is, the scenario that you cite is a bit cliche but I dunno for me, I just end up talking about stuff and the next thing I now I have new friends. hahaha. And another weird thing is that I tend to play a game in my mind and guess the people in the bar IRL basing on how they dress, their gestures, their friends, and how they convey their opinion on random non sensical things.

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    Liezel

    March 6, 2017

    Hi saab! This is so interesting! How about kapag ka ayaw mo naman sa guy, i mean hindi naman sa choosy pero if nahahalata mo yung guy naman nakikipag flirt pano sya sabihin na ayaw mo in a nice way? Haha can’t find the ask saab box in my phone. I sooo love you !!! ๐Ÿ˜˜

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      Saab

      March 7, 2017

      Casually mention your boyfriend. Hahaha. Whatever he says, just say “hahaha oo nga, sabi rin ng boyfriend ko!” LOL. If he doesn’t back off after that, just pretend someone called your phone and excuse yourself. Find your friends and ask them to help cock block by keeping you occupied. IDK if this is good advice, I’m not very good at this!!

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